Conquer the Impostor Syndrome
This book will help you if your confidence needs a boost—whether your goal is to rebuild it from the basement or strengthen it when it wobbles. Using the tools and strategies in this book, you can:
Live as your authentic self
Tame your perfectionism
Muzzle your inner critic
Express your needs and wants
See daunting challenges as opportunities
And lots more!
What Would You Do If You Were More Confident?
Ask For A Raise
Express My Opinion
Tell My Partner What I Need
Enjoy Social Events
Embrace Stretch Goals
Let’s Do It Together
10 Things This Book Will Teach You To Do:
1. Harness the power of neuroplasticity
2. Become mindful
3. Identify and accept your authentic self
4. Tame your perfectionism
5. Muzzle your inner critic
6. Subdue endless loops of negative thoughts
7. Express your preferences and opinions
8. Meet adversity with self-compassion
9. Say “no” without explanations or excuses
10. See daunting challenges as opportunities
More About This Book
I wrote this book just for women. My coaching practice is limited to women, and they often express concern about lacking confidence. Some clients say they suffer from the Impostor Syndrome. A lack of confidence hurts women at work, at home and in virtually every aspect of their lives.
But a confidence deficit isn’t permanent. Just as you can strengthen a muscle, you can strengthen your confidence. I’ve seen my clients do it, and their stories fill the pages of this book. I draw on proven techniques from biology, psychology, and neuroscience to create an easy-to-understand guide for making confidence part of your life every day.
“[B]oth inspirational and practical, McGuinness provides a playbook of the techniques she employed to rebuild her lost confidence.… McGuinness is unfailingly positive, dishing out encouragement every chance she gets, as she draws on her experience and relates it to other women’s challenges. The author backs up her insightful strategies with notes that reference a multitude of articles and books, which makes for an even stronger presentation. A compassionate and energizing guide full of confidence-building ideas.”
“Women who struggle to believe in themselves will discover many useful tips in this practical guide to building and sustaining self-esteem. . . . Great for fans of Jen Sincero’s You Are a Badass and Nathaniel Brandon’s Six Pillars of Self-Esteem”.
“There are plenty of books written for women about confidence, but none compare to Confidence Lost, Confidence Found. Kate McGuinness not only touches on every key element essential to developing healthy confidence but also provides the tools needed to achieve it. Well-researched yet totally readable, this book is written with heart, candor, and . . . confidence. It should be on the bookshelf of every woman who has ever questioned her self-worth—and that’s just about all of us.”
Lois P. Frankel, Ph.D., author of Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office, Nice Girls Don’t Get Rich and Nice Girls Don’t Speak Up or Stand Out
“This book is a gem. It combines soulful depth, recent science, effective suggestions, and the big heart of its author. It’s written with great integrity, and is fantastically helpful. We long for true confidence in our worth and capacity to cope and succeed, and Kate McGuinness shows us the way.”
Rick Hanson, Ph.D., author of Resilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength, and Happiness
“Research indicates confidence can be a professional stumbling block for many women. Confidence Lost/ Confidence Found provides a treasure trove of strategies, techniques and resources to help you present your most powerful and confident self.”
Pat Heim, author, Hardball for Women and In the Company of Women
“Crystal clear, compelling, refreshing. Kate McGuinness is a trustworthy guide through the complexities of recovering and rejoicing in our own competencies. Anchored in solid cutting-edge science and clinical expertise, McGuinness shows the reader, step-by-step, how confidence lost can be more than found; it can be claimed and celebrated as one’s own being. Terrific!”
Linda Graham, MFT, author of Resilience: Powerful Practices for Bouncing Back from Disappointment, Difficulty, and Even Disaster
“Kate McGuinness has been in the trenches of corporate America. Her useful and encouraging book demonstrates how all women can gain the confidence needed in the business world without compromise. This is a guidebook to conquer that self-doubt that every woman has experienced at some point in her life—a lack of confidence. Lending her firsthand experience and sympathetic counsel forces the reader to reconcile this shaky ground and stand on solid ground with two feet firmly planted.”
Audrey Nelson, author, Gender Communication Handbook, Code Switching, and You Don’t Say
“This book, rooted in personal experience, addresses the issue of confidence in a comprehensive treatment. For those who aspire to leadership roles yet find themselves getting in their own way, it offers a myriad of helpful exercises to manage self-defeating thoughts and to negotiate the workplace more successfully.”
Carol Frohlinger, President of Negotiating Women, Inc.
“By virtue of experience and thought leadership, Kate precisely captures the pitfalls of perfectionism and articulates easy-to-follow action items to overcome it. This is a helpful and worthwhile read for anyone who is trapped by notions of perfectionism and failure.”
Desiree Moore, author, Thrive
“Building on a solid foundation of research and life experience, Kate McGuinness provides a heartful account, interwoven with poignant client anecdotes, of how confidence fades and how to regain it. Her tone is inspiring and her prose is highly readable, but more importantly, her advice is straightforward and practical. Drawing on core concepts of mindfulness and wellness, Confidence Lost, Confidence Found delivers a wealth of strategies to help readers enhance communication skills, identify insidious automatic thoughts that hold us back, cultivate positive states of mind, bolster gratitude and nurture healthy, loving relationships.”
Rebecca Gladding, M.D., co-author, You Are Not Your Brain
“Lost confidence becomes an inner narrative that holds back so many women. From on the job performance to job interviews, networking, public speaking and more, Kate McGuinness offers women research-backed tools to find their confidence and perform more effectively than ever before. Kate’s book is like having a mentor available to you 24/7.”
Andrea S. Kramer, coauthor of It’s Not You, It’s the Workplace: Women’s Conflict at Work
Kate McGuinness’ book is such an inspiration for so many people particularly women who have struggled and continue to struggle with accomplishing the impossible, PERFECTIONISM. McGuinness’ words wouldn’t not have such power, truth, and relatability had she not gone through her own struggles in life. Furthermore, Ms. McGuinness effectively conveys the message that when faced with adversity accompanied by shame or self-doubt, there is a way to recreate one’s narrative with tools that she generously shares in her book. Must read!
Sarah Brokaw, author Fortytude
Kate’s Journey to Reclaim Her Confidence
Despite achieving career success and accumulating wealth, I lost both—not once, but twice. In truth, I didn’t “lose” them. They were taken from me. But my story isn’t about loss—it’s about what I’ve gained as I’ve reclaimed my confidence.
The double hit sent me into a place where I was overshadowed by fear. To find my way out, I had to become mindful so I could discover my authentic self and abandon self-defeating behaviors that undercut my confidence. It took time, but I’m here now to help other women.
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